Shoot for the Stars :)

When we first lose someone it is an unbearable shock that's hard to believe. Once the shock wears off the grief swoops in and can sometimes make us feel as if we can't even breathe. Grief is a monster that we can't kill or tame all at once. We need to accept that that footprint will always be there, but as the weeks and months go by the grief does die down a little at a time.

When we lose a loved one, in the beginning it is about getting through the day. That period referred as "the beginning" and it doesn't end all at once. Its ending is more suitably described as "slowly fading". Even as we cannot imagine moving on, we do; because each day comes and goes, and here we still are, going through the motions and getting through each of those days.

I had come to the realization that it takes quite long period before it feels as if we are really ourselves. With each day that passes, I move further from that shock and grief, so I don’t feel the same several months later as I do in the beginning. It is a gradual fading, but what I found was that the grief remained painfully close to the surface far longer than I once imagined it would.

What always helped me was that "get-through-each-day" thinking that seemed to come naturally. I gave myself permission to not think about the grief or the person if at all possible. I told myself that the person I loved would understand if I had to wait for a while before thinking about him. I reminded myself that I had the rest of my life to think about this person, and that my main objective at the time was to get through each day.

Reminding yourself that your loved one would want you to do what it takes to get through the grief can help. I am sure that as a person with full passion for life, he wouldn’t happy to see my stuck in dreadful grief. I realize that if I don't think about him for a while it doesn't mean I’ll forget him, aren't grieving, or didn't love him. Difficult as it is to believe when we have just lost someone, we all just keep moving on, whether or not we want to, and whether or not we appear to be. If you ask how to get through your days, rather than ask how to move on, time will move you on, and your heart will tell you when to take another step.

It is difficult to believe that when we have just lost someone, we all just keep moving on, whether we want to or not, and whether or not we appear to be. If you ask how to get through your days, rather than ask how to move on, the answer is time will move you on, and your heart will tell you when to take another step.

I lost my loved one on last October and I am thinking about him almost all the time. But what's difference is now i can think about him and smile, laugh or even tell stories about him. I am no longer in grief, tears or bad dreams. I am trying to move on and shooting for the stars, looking forward and make him proud of me. I've looked at love and lost at both sides now. There is no right or wrong on this matter because it's different for every person and there are different ways to see things, every one has to experience it to know the answer and the experiences will shape how people view life.

Something's lost when he's gone but something's gained in living every day.
If I ever meet him again, I'll held my head up high and I'll have so much more to say.
If I ever meet him again, I'll hold him close and I'll never let him go away.
Bittersweet.